A couple months ago, I needed to ask for an extension on a big project. The person who gave me more time said the most compassionate thing. “You can only do what you can do,” she told me. I’ve thought a lot about these words since. It was a relief to hear them, and I’m trying to say them to myself now and then. So in that spirit—a weekend pause! I’ll be back in the groove next Sunday. And some food is coming…

There’s a quote from Rumi that I encounter often: Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. I could feel myself resisting this quote the first few times I read it. I got irritated by the suggestion that, if one doesn’t have or feel love, it’s somehow the result of a lack of openness or willingness. With time, I’ve come to appreciate the words and their…

It’s been a busy, emotional weekend in general, but the big news is that I got my first vaccine dose today! I thought I’d have a lot to say about it, but I don’t. I’m overwhelmed and grateful—that’s about all there is to it. As I was waiting in line for my shot, I thought about waiting on line to vote in October. That moment, like this one, felt hopeful. It gave me a glimpse of change, of something new. How appropriate that…

Yesterday was a tough day. And I was just at the point of thinking that it would be a tough weekend when I agreed to meet up with my mom for a spontaneous errand. It was a beautiful spring afternoon in New York City. The streets were full, people were dining outside, the sun was shining, the air was clear. I started to feel refreshed as I wandered south from my apartment. Shortly after our errand, my mom and I happened upon some…

I was horrified to hear about the violent hate crime in Atlanta this week. I feel grateful for Stop AAPI Hate and the consciousness that has been raised around its anti-racist work. But the rise of anti-Asian hate incidents, which disproportionately impact Asian women, is tragic and outrageous. The murders happened this week against the backdrop of spring arriving in New York City. The first few days of spring weather always cause my neighbors to flood the park near where I live. The…

I came across a snippet from an interview with the playwright Tracy Letts this week. In it, Letts shared a candid account of what his life as a writer has looked like in quarantine. It’s candid, a little sad, and very relatable. He says, I’ve made nothing. On four separate occasions, I arranged my schedule with [my wife] Carrie so I could have six uninterrupted hours a day to write. All four times, I emerged from my office after two or three weeks,…

We’re coming up on the one year anniversary of pandemic lockdown. I spent the weekend thinking about the enormity of this, and about hard anniversaries in general. Hard anniversaries mark the passage of time since death, loss, breakups, or other traumatic personal events. We all have some of these in addition to the happier anniversaries in our lives. A close friend from college jokes with me that I have a lousy track record with springtime, and it’s true. As crazy as it probably…

    Each Sunday, I publish a post that includes personal musings and articles on medicine, science, and the human experience. These are reminders that health and wellness extend far beyond what's on our plates.