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“I Love to Eat”: Embracing Our Appetites

February 24, 2010 Uncategorized

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Hi guys!

Happy hump day — or Raw Wednesday, as it’s known here on Choosing Raw.

The other day, I was speaking with a client who has struggled—as so many women do—with cycles of dieting, guilt about food choices, and body hatred. Over the course of our session, she had a revelation. “I love to eat,” she said. No sooner had she said it, than she recognized the enormity of those words. “I guess that’s a really big deal for me to say,” she chuckled, “because I’ve spent so much time trying to pretend it’s not true. And it’s something I’ve always felt so ashamed of.”

She’s not alone. For many, many women, nothing is more difficult than to admit to having an appetite. It may be OK to say we’re hungry after a workout, or because we haven’t eaten all day, or because we were super busy doing this or that, but rarely will a woman feel 100% comfortable admitting that she’s hungry for no other reason than that she desires food.

In case you haven’t seen it mentioned on other blogs, it’s National Eating Disorders Awareness (NEDA) week. What does this mean? Well, according to the National Eating Disorders website , it means this:

Our aim of NEDAwareness Week is to ultimately prevent eating disorders and body image issues while reducing the stigma surrounding eating disorders and improving access to treatment. Eating disorders are serious, life-threatening illnesses — not choices — and it’s important to recognize the pressures, attitudes and behaviors that shape the disorder.

According to me, it means this: it’s a great time for us all to pay a little extra attention to the very real and painful consequences of eating disorders, and for us to show extra compassion to those we know who are suffering. It’s also a great time for us to do our part in battling these all too common and constantly multiplying afflictions. How? Well, we can show sympathy or understanding to someone who’s battling the condition. We can bravely and boldly share our own stories. We can set a good example by trying to live healthy lives, in which we seek out and maintain a positive and reasonable relationship with food. We can inspire others to enjoy meals by coming up with innovative, nourishing, beautiful, and balanced meals. Perhaps we can inspire others by taking a fun and joyous, rather than competitive, approach to physical fitness. Whatever your strengths are, whatever you have to give, you can find a small way to give it.

Back to desire. In Hilde Bruch’s The Golden Cage–which is, in my opinion, one of the finest books on eating disorders–the author posits that eating disorders have a great deal to do with the willed suppression of desire. They involve the negation, the defiance of appetites: appetites for food, for sex, for physicality.  Women are particularly susceptible to this tendency, she argues, because we’ve been socialized to keep our desires within tight bounds. Historically, and even now, we’re encouraged to be chaste, restrained, clean, and austere: we’re not encouraged to be carnal, or, at the least, our carnality isn’t as socially embraced as male carnality often is. Sadly, we women (and some men) have become all too adept at denying our appetites, our hungers, our yearnings.

While I battled disordered eating, this urge was an enormous part of my illness. I’m often asked if what I wanted from the disorder was to be thin. The answer, naturally, is yes: of course thinness is what I wanted. But it was, in retrospect, only a surprisingly small part of what I wanted. When I look back on those years, I see that a lot of what I wanted was to quash my own needs. Overcoming this–connecting with my hunger for food, for sex, for vitality, for physicality–took a long time. Being able to declare to myself and to others that I not only needed to eat, but wanted to eat–and all that eating implied–demanded that I overcome a great deal of unconscious shame.

Of course, it’s not just women with eating disorders who feel this shame. It’s most women. Sure, we might open the pages of Maxim and read about how much men like a girl who can devour a plate of chicken wings and wash it down with a pint of beer, but this is a rather typecast exceptions to the rule, which is that women are and always have been encouraged to want, but not to want too much. We should to eat, but only in moderation; to desire, but never so much that we behave unseemly, or–God forbid!–slutty; to be assertive, but never so much that we’re bitchy or aggressive. Not that. To utter the words “I love to eat” feels like a shocking confession, a guilty secret.

In my travels through the raw community, I’ve encountered what I think are both the best and the worst kinds of attitudes towards this issue. On the one hand many raw foodists promote what I believe is a truly exuberant and healthy attitude towards eating. On the other, there are some who approach raw foods and fasting with what I believe is too much asceticism. Me? Well, being a vegan and eating more raw food have certainly helped me to realize that there are many things I thought I needed that I really don’t: an endless rotation of cute new clothing, carefully applied makeup, painted nails, and various other accoutrements of beauty. When you live healthily, beauty and vibrance radiates from within. But veganism and raw foods have also helped me, more than ever before, to embrace my appetites: for life, for experience, and, lord knows, for food. I’ve always liked to eat. And when I’m eating foods that I believe are not only optimal for my body, but optimal for the environment and for mother nature, too, I like itmore than ever.

Of course, we should always guard ourselves against excess. Appetites have limits, and food is just food. But let’s also try to embrace the very real hunger that nature has given us, even if it’s sometimes a little unruly. Desire is a part of life–and a pretty great part of it, if you ask me.

So today, in honor of NEDAwareness week, I think we should celebrate our hunger. In good ole AA fashion, I’ll go first:

I’m Gena. I love to eat.

Do you?

If this post speaks to you at all, I encourage you to echo this statement. Say it on your blogs, to a friend, in writing, or out loud–I like to eat. I enjoy food. Say it in your head, if you want to. Say it in private, or in public. But if it’s true–and I hope very much that it is–say it. Say it with pride. Our hunger makes us human.

Have a great night, everyone.

xo

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  1. carolinebee says

    February 26, 2010 at 3:00 pm

    This is an amazing post Gena- my roommate and I were literally just talking about how she just went on vacay with one of her best friends, and out at breakfast- her friend was like “i feel like all we’ve done on this vacay is eat!”…And my roommate was like, “We were eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner….like normal people!” She guessed that her friend was just used to her other friends barely eating, or snacking, or just feeling guilty about relaxing and enjoying meals and good food. Either way, it’s just a telling example of how so much unnecessary guilt and attention is spent on something that is SOOOO vital for our happiness and health.
    Great post 🙂

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  2. Kim says

    February 26, 2010 at 7:01 pm

    Eating not only nourishes our body, but it’s also a great memory capsule. The aroma of rice noodle always reminds me of my grandmom because when I’m hungry in the middle of the night, unconsiderate little me would wake her up to make me a snack. No matter how much I dine out, homecooked meals shall always be my comfort food.

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  3. Lynna says

    February 26, 2010 at 8:08 pm

    I really enjoyed your analysis of the feelings, both conscious and unconscious, that women have toward eating. I love food and I love to eat. I hope this post makes more people realize that these feelings are natural and not something to be fought against!

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  4. Ashley says

    February 26, 2010 at 10:40 pm

    I’m planning on making an ‘i love to eat” post in the next few days. Thank you for your always inspirational posts. 🙂

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  5. jenny (green food diaries) says

    February 27, 2010 at 1:32 am

    My name is Jenny. And I love to eat!!

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  6. Maria (Tough Cookie) says

    February 27, 2010 at 8:15 am

    Great post! I hear a lot of feminism in the way your ideas are coming across, and I love that. Women are discrminated against, oversexualized, amongst other horrible treatment, and I believe EDs take on a lot of those undertones. The way we are treated in society and portrayed in the media is “less than,” and that is sad.

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  7. Rachel says

    February 27, 2010 at 12:29 pm

    Amazing post! When I’ve articulated my love of food (and eating) in the past, I’ve often gotten strange looks from other women. It’s not hard to figure out why. I’m in a Victorian literature class right now (graduate school), and it’s sometimes painful to read the depictions of women in these novels and realize how far we haven’t come with issues like this. None of this is new and none of us are immune.

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  8. Katie says

    February 27, 2010 at 2:27 pm

    My name is Katie, and I love to eat!

    I love this post, Gena. Love love love. Thanks for linking back to Melissa and Nicole’s posts… I know it wasn’t easy for them to post, and it’s nice that they’re getting a chance to share their stories.

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  9. Julie Lynn says

    February 27, 2010 at 5:33 pm

    Gena,

    I love reading your blog. It’s always SO encouraging. Thank you for sharing your story in such real terms.

    My name is Julielynn, and I love to eat! =)

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  10. Hayley says

    February 28, 2010 at 2:28 pm

    This was an excellent post Gena…it definitely spoke to me. I am going to save it and read back over it often. I’m also going to read your post about “What Food is Not.”

    Thank you, thank you, thank you…

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  11. Health Foodie says

    March 1, 2010 at 8:22 am

    Hi Gena,

    What a wonderful post! I have never been ashamed of loving to eat. It is such a big part of me. People always mention it, I am almost known for it. Of course, there are women who feel shame about it, thanks for reminding me.

    I have a page on my blog where I post pictures of me eating over the years. I hope it makes eating seem natural, sweet and fun. Which it is! And we all deserve it!
    http://www.health-foodie.com/watch-me-eat/

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  14. marian says

    January 7, 2011 at 1:35 pm

    im a new reader and all i can say is thank you 🙂

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  15. Rhiannon says

    July 21, 2011 at 9:13 pm

    … Wow. Yeah, I just hit that revalation when I decided to search it on google. I felt shame of it, until I read this post. So I think I’ll say it too.

    I’m Rhiannon, and I love to eat!

    Thank you. <3

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  16. Colleen says

    July 26, 2011 at 8:25 pm

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this post (and frankly, all of your posts).

    <3

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  17. Ela says

    July 28, 2011 at 9:10 pm

    A belated Thank you!

    This post predates my finding your blog, and I came to it from your 7 links post. As always, I appreciate the breadth that you cover, the depth in which you cover it, and your personal passion.

    That part about suppressing desire hits me right over the head! I think I mentioned something similar in my comment on your today’s post. I’m thinking of starting a blog series to antidote that tendency.

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  18. Sarah says

    July 31, 2011 at 10:56 am

    I like this post a lot but I’m just wondering about the part where you say you like eating foods that are optimal for your health and for the environment? How exactly is eating anything ‘good’ for the environment? I understand that it might not be harmful to the environment to eat raw foods, but does it actually do anything good for anyone other than the eater? I applaud enjoying food wholeheartedly, I’m just wondering whether the moral satisfaction and sense of doing good comes from… I’d love to know more, in case I’m just ignorant about this.

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  19. cindy says

    March 13, 2013 at 6:37 pm

    Love it, your article just made me laugh so much, its so true and it takes courage for us women to come right out and say we love to eat…….. I love it thankyou sooo much.

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  21. Lulu says

    July 10, 2013 at 9:58 am

    I am a lover of food as well and my appetite has always been enormous since I was born! Even thought I tried to suppress and shrink it, and I succeeded, but my cravings for food remained. I am slowly realizing and working with the fact that I can never defeat my natural food-craving tendencies. I might even smaller portions more often than big meals because my stomach is happier that way, but I am still eating and learning to appreciate my food 🙂 thank you for another great post, Gena!

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  22. Natasha says

    October 16, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    You are wonderful! love reading your posts!

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